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Mary and Jesus

i wanted everything to be perfect for you, I wanted you to come into the world in the calmest, naturalist way possible but now your mother tells me you are breech so she will very probably have to have a cesarean. I can't tell you how freaked out I am about this and how worried I am about you both. But i guess this is my first lesson, that I cant make everything okay for you, that i can't protect you from everything


:( There are ways to have a natural birth with a breech baby! If your friend wants a natural birth she shouldn't give up so easily.
I know, I know, I'm just stressed about it. They are going to try for a natural birh first.

Cesareans are usually very successful. Prayers that your godchild will enter this world healthy.
I know, but they are not as good for the mother or the child as natural births
Please be very careful what you say to the mother about this! It is very stressful having your hopes and dream overthrown when you wanted the birth of your child to be one way, and are told that for safety reasons you should do something else. The last thing the mother needs is other people telling her she is doing the wrong thing, or stressing at her about it. (Just a warning - mothers take all this very personally, even if you don't mean it that way. I know lots of mothers who feel like they "failed" or "chickened out" because they needed a C-section.)

Bottom line - a C-section is harder on the mother (more recovery time) but safer for the baby. In the end, it doesn't matter than much how you arrive in this world as long as you get there safely! (Both my children were highly medically involved births, for a variety of reasons, but they are here and well, and I'm well, so we're all happy!)
Her mother is actually surprisingly mellow about the whole situation. I'm not telling her shes doing the wrong thing nor would I, I know that sometimes cesareans are necessary
I'm sure that the baby will come out fine, whether it's a natural birth or a c-section. My nephew was breech, and he had almost entered the birth canal when they decided to go with a c-section - very late notice, but everything turned out fine. He's healthy, and the mother only has one scar to show for the ordeal.

The days have passed when a c-section was significantly more unhealthy for the baby due to the fluid not being pressed out of the baby's lungs by the birth canal; the medical field has developed enough to ensure that it's very healthy and safe for the baby and mother alike - even though the recovery process is prolonged and painful for the mother.

Try not to stress out about this in front of the mother - it's said that when you're liable to start stressing, the worst thing to be around is people who are stressing over the same stressor!

It's quite likely that everything will be a-ok in the end, so have hope ♥
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May 2010

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